{"id":431,"date":"2019-10-08T08:43:14","date_gmt":"2019-10-08T12:43:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jrolik.caludin.com\/?p=431"},"modified":"2019-10-04T10:44:22","modified_gmt":"2019-10-04T14:44:22","slug":"topical-tuesday-conversation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jrolik.caludin.com\/index.php\/2019\/10\/08\/topical-tuesday-conversation\/","title":{"rendered":"Topical Tuesday: Conversation"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Hello, everyone! Enjoying your week so far? Today, I thought- okay, not me. Sophie. Sophie thought of this. I love when she gives me prompts! Anyway, Sophie recommended a pretty interesting topic idea this time around too: conversations. She said she\u2019d be curious to see how I talk to people, how I perceive others in conversation, things like that. And, to add to it myself, I\u2019m going to talk about differences between different kinds of conversing- for example, voice chat versus text chat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve never been the best conversationalist. I have a soft voice because of my hearing too loud, and I get too anxious to look people in the eyes most times. I have a local accent that involves not being able to pronounce the letter \u2018t\u2019 in words it\u2019s in the middle of like water or letter. They always come out wader and leder. As someone who took vocal lessons, I find it fairly annoying that I can\u2019t annunciate things properly when I speak, but when I sing all the words sound normal!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But that\u2019s not the end of my own skills that don\u2019t exist. Whether in video chat or not, I often have notable hand gestures and do stupid things in front of my computer. I\u2019ll wave hello after typing it knowing no one can see it but me. To be frank, I talk with my hands a lot. They\u2019re constantly on the go, trying to emphasize my points and phrases. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

That, however, is just how it looks on my side when having a conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are lots of things I see as good or bad in a conversation. To me, raising your voice, name calling (unless it\u2019s all in good fun), talking too fast or slow- those are all pretty bad things, and I know I do some of them myself. The more excited I am, the faster and louder my voice can get. The hardest part is getting me to shut up. It\u2019s sadly a family trait- all of it. It\u2019s how I learned these things, you know?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, those forms of conversational issues only really matter when you\u2019re using your voice. Some of them, like the name calling, are bad in text as well- but you can\u2019t really yell outside caps lock (which I find quite annoying, frankly), your speed is mostly based on how fast you can type\u2026 It\u2019s just different by design.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve seen a lot of bad conversations. My grandma is a terrible listener, and she has a habit of trying to force food on people who are trying to leave her house or that are just not hungry. She\u2019ll repeat herself over and over until you say yes just to get her to leave you alone. I use the food example because it happens more than other times this kind of situation comes up. I once saw her friend stuck at her house for an extra half hour because she was trying to leave to go to dinner with her kids, and my grandma couldn\u2019t accept that fact and that clearly she didn\u2019t need food.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have some beliefs about what make a good conversation- for starters, not talking in circles (unlike me and my family) is great. Get to the point as quickly and reliably as possible, I say- but I\u2019m still learning to do it myself. Don\u2019t speak so fast that no one can hear your words, obviously- but don\u2019t speak so slow that it takes an hour to say a sentence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The big issue for me is volume. Whenever I\u2019m in a voice chat, unless my buddy JD is joining us, my volume is usually set to maybe ten, fifteen at most. For some reason, JD is even quieter than I am, though- so I have to put on my headphones and turn up the volume just to hear her. It\u2019s a shame, really.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Outside of speech patterns and such, though, is how you talk when you text. I tend to use a lot of smiley marks and such in conversations online. I don\u2019t think it\u2019s good nor bad to do- it\u2019s just a preference. The way I end my sentences with tildes is not proper grammar, but part of my doing that is to learn to not be as stiff about grammar and such when it\u2019s not work related. How you end your sentences, how you start your sentences- there\u2019s a lot to think about whether text or voice with how you express yourself in words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your inflection is a tell, a tell for the listener to know what emotion you\u2019re working off of. Since you can\u2019t do that in text, it\u2019s a lot easier to confuse people about your emotional state. The speed at which you talk should affect your grammar when you text too- if you speak really fast, make your sentences shorter so that the many stops fit how you\u2019d usually speak. Or, just ignore grammar altogether and let all your words flow without punctuation in that particular text. Yes, you heard me right. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s important with conversation, no matter how it\u2019s held, is simply this: You listen and take in every piece of data you can get from their speed, their inflection, their volume. Or you read, keep an eye on context, and get the gist of things that way. No matter how you hold your conversations, the most important thing you can do is get your ideas across in a way your partner can understand. And if you don\u2019t understand, guys\u2026 Just be honest! Honesty is the best policy. It\u2019s also the best way to get someone to reword what they said and repeat it differently when you\u2019re confused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s just my two cents though. Others will see conversation in different ways, because we\u2019re all different people. We\u2019re all just trying to make sense of the world and the people around us- so shouldn\u2019t we try to make sense to those doing the same?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s it for today guys, but you know the drill! Tell me what you find important when holding a conversation with someone. Tell me about a bad or good experience conversing- just share what you thought of while reading this! I love to get to know you through that, more than you\u2019ll ever know!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, until next time!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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