{"id":446,"date":"2019-10-19T09:34:01","date_gmt":"2019-10-19T13:34:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jrolik.caludin.com\/?p=446"},"modified":"2019-10-16T09:35:02","modified_gmt":"2019-10-16T13:35:02","slug":"soulful-saturday-self-care","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jrolik.caludin.com\/index.php\/2019\/10\/19\/soulful-saturday-self-care\/","title":{"rendered":"Soulful Saturday: Self Care"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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It\u2019s that time again, everyone! What time do I mean? Oh, just time for me to pour my heart out. Well, actually, not so much today. Today, I want to talk to you about something very important: self care. Self care is very closely related to self love, something I\u2019ve struggled with most of my life. It\u2019s not easy to learn to love yourself when your self esteem has always been shit\u2026 But there are things you can do to show yourself some love even if it\u2019s just simple things. I want to talk about those today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m still fairly new to the self care scene, I\u2019ll note. When I as young, I was very bad at taking care of myself- in fact, I was seemingly bullied for certain things I didn\u2019t do often enough, but I didn\u2019t understand they didn\u2019t quite intend to bully me by saying the things they did. I was often yelled at by the school bullies to take a shower, which I thought was just them being mean and calling me a dirty existence. I found out later that it was because I had a seriously bad odor even if I\u2019d showered that morning, as I sweat profusely throughout the day sometimes, and thus my body odor doesn\u2019t stay tame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s been more than a decade since those words were said to me, however. Since then, I\u2019m not sure my hygiene has gotten any better- in fact, it\u2019s gone downhill. My father has to remind me to do things like brush my teeth still, and I no longer shower every day. I don\u2019t go out much, so I just wipe myself down (aka a sponge bath) some days instead of taking a shower, as I get dizzy even in just warm water. I do have a stool in the bath\/shower for when I get dizzy, though. So really, I shouldn\u2019t be worrying so much about the dizziness\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

All that said, I do try to take care of myself lately. I\u2019m trying harder not to apologize for things that aren\u2019t my fault. As you probably already know, I\u2019ve also started journaling and planning my day to some extent ahead of time. And you know what? I may fail a lot of my tasks, but I really enjoy using my binder journal. I have some really good things in it, like a mood tracker for the month, which has shown me just how bad my anxiety and depression can be. I also have a habit tracker, a gratitude journal and other things in my journal. I\u2019ll talk more about that another time, though. The point is, I find my journaling fairly soothing and insightful!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another thing I\u2019ve gotten into is cosmetics. I like playing around with them, but I also do it to feel better about my appearance. Some days, I\u2019ll look in the mirror and tell myself I\u2019m cute even if I haven\u2019t put makeup on- but many days, if I don\u2019t feel my best, I\u2019ll do my makeup both to relax myself (I don\u2019t know why, but hitting myself with a sponge is oddly relaxing). I also do a facial mask every few days, not like clockwork but in general. I find having it on my face for ten to twenty minutes and just daydreaming and laying back in my recliner really enjoyable. Sometimes, I\u2019ll time it by watching a cartoon with dad instead. We both enjoy kids shows (not like toddler shows, mind you\u2026 but cartoons like Danger Mouse are great!).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Something I\u2019m trying to learn to do is positive affirmations. Things like \u2018you look fine as you are\u2019 or \u2018there\u2019s nothing to worry about today\u2019. I\u2019m still not good at saying them regularly, which I need to work on, but I do practice positive self talk when my anxiety rolls in like it does regularly in its cool car. At those times, I try my best to do positive self talk and tell myself a certain phrase: \u201cThis pain will pass.\u201d I always say that when I\u2019m in pain, even if I\u2019m in the middle of an anxiety attack or panic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s it for the self care I personally practice. Now, let\u2019s hear yours! What do you do to try to ease your inner pain? And what do you do to show yourself love throughout the day, or even just the week? No matter what you do to take care of yourself, I want to hear it. It can be something as simple as a positive affirmation or just doing something you find relaxing. Please share your tips with me- because I still need all the help I can get!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, that\u2019s that. Have a great weekend guys!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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